GRIEVING THE LOSS OF A CHILD AT THE HOLIDAYS

Find help grieving the loss of a child

The holidays, any holiday, can be especially challenging for those who have lost a loved one, particularly when that loss is a child. I know this from experience. All too often, friends and family shy away from the grieving person, almost as if loss is contagious. This avoidance can leave the bereaved feeling even more isolated and lonely than they already are.

If you know someone who is grieving the loss of a child, here are a few recommendations to support them during this difficult time. From the grieving person's perspective: 

- Be There for Me

If you are my friend, please reach out. Talk to me, hold my hand, or give me a hug. Just sitting together in silence is okay too. A simple “I’m sorry” may not seem like much, but it speaks volumes during a time like this.

- Keep in Touch

Call me from time to time. I’ll do my best to stay in touch too. Please don’t give up on me or forget about me. I’m doing the best I can right now, even if it doesn’t always seem like it.

- Acknowledge My Grief

Don’t avoid me just because the topic of death feels uncomfortable. When you ignore my grief, it makes me wonder if what happened really matters to you. Recognizing my loss means more than you know.

If you have lost a child, The Compassionate Friends offer a soft place to land. Reach out if you can and be with those who understand what you’re going through because they’ve been through it themselves. Marin County Chapter http://www.tcfmarin.org Phone (415) 457-3123 Meets: 3rd Monday of each month 7:30 – 9:00 pm (New attendees should arrive at 7:00 pm)